Questions are the answer

As Trent Hamm tells it, “I sat at the kitchen table flipping through the mail, seeing bill after bill after bill. I tore open a couple of them immediately, wanting to see the terrible news in its full glory. I began to calculate what I could afford to pay and what I could not. I began to quickly realize that the pile of bills I just received not only wouldn’t be covered by the current balance of my checking account, but that my next paycheck would not cover them either — and that was if I spent absolutely nothing on food, gasoline, or anything else.”

“I sat there completely stunned for a moment. Then I got up and went into my son’s room, closed the door behind me and sat down in the rocking chair across from his crib. He was so tiny laying there, less than six months old, and sleeping so peacefully there without a worry in the world. As I watched him lay there, gently breathing, emotions poured through me. Guilt. Shame. Embarrassment. Pain.” “I was failing this wonderful little boy, this child who had already brought incalculable joy into my life.

He relied on me for everything and because of my poor decision-making and my selfishness, I was letting him down. I closed my eyes and didn’t realize at first I was crying, almost uncontrollably. My wife came in and put her arm around me. Eventually my sobbing woke up my son, who also began to cry. Sarah held us both.”? - Exerpt from “Get Paid For Who You Are”.

This is something that I feel that many of us can relate to however, the sad reality is that although many people may find themselves in these type of circumstances, there are VERY FEW which find the heart to pull themselves out it. The masses simply just submit to their defeats and say to things to themselves such as, “You’re so far in debt…what makes you think you can get yourself out of it?”

The story goes on to say that Trent really began to evaluate his circumstances and changed the QUESTIONS he began to ask himself. Instead of saying, “Gee…I can’t do this…”, he began to ask himself, “How can I do this?”

You see when you change the questions that you ask yourself you change the direction of which way your mind focuses. In the story above, it could have been VERY easy for Trent to simply just throw in the towel and quit however, his love for his son and for his wife was FAR too strong to give up on them. Instead, he started to ask himself different questions which immediately shifted his energy from the negative to the positive.

When you ask yourself a question that is focused on the negative end of your current state of affairs, your mind immediately begins to look for other reasons and variables to make the situation seem even worse than it is! The troubling part of this is that many of us were conditioned this way as we were growing up. We were given these inferiority complexes which caused ourselves to think, things such as, “I’ve failed before…what makes me think I can succeed again?” Or… “I can’t be successful! I don’t even have a college degree!”

Whether you choose to believe it or not, the questions that we ask ourselves and other people give us power. If you find yourself in circumstances that you are currently not enjoying, it may be time to start asking yourself some new questions. Undoubtedly, the quickest way to change your focus is by asking what I call…

The Magic Question

Your mind is a very powerful tool and can be used to your advantage providing that you ask it the right type of questions. If you are serious about changing your life and the results you are currently getting, without question the most powerful thing you could ever ask yourself is, “How can I…(fill in the blank)?”

Whether you want more money, more time, freedom, more fulfilling relationships, better health, or a stronger spiritual connection, when you ask yourself “How can I…” you literally open yourself up to the infinite. The trick to really make this strategy shine is to constantly ask yourself that question.

• “How can I get out of debt?”
• “How can I attract a better business partner?”
• “How can I lose this unnecessary weight?”
• “How can I feel more fulfilled with what I’m doing?”
• “How can I contribute more to our world?”

The bottom line is that you have the choice to choose what you focus on in this world and if you find that your current results are not to your liking, you may need to evaluate the type of questions you are asking yourself or other people. Remember, it’s not only the questions that you ask, but also the questions that you don’t ask which shape your destiny.

How To Apply The Power Of Questions

I’m going to give you a powerful exercise that has been very beneficial in my life and will completely change your focus should you decide to use it in yours. The exercise is asking yourself the following questions each morning when you wake up and each evening before you go to bed.

Morning Power Questions

• What am I happy about in my life now?
• What am I excited about in my life now?
• What am I proud about in my life now?
• What am I grateful about in my life now?
• What am I enjoying the most in my life right now?
• What am I committed to in my life right now?
• Who do I love? Who loves me?

Evening Power Questions

• What have I given today?
• What did I learn today?
• How has today added to the quality of my life or how can I use today as an investment in my future?

Are you beginning to understand how powerful the questions we ask truly are and how big of an impact they could have on your future?

Leave me a comment in the box below and share your thoughts on this matter as the true learning comes from discussion. With that, I hope you’re having a lovely day and I cannot wait to share more with you. Go forth and live with passion!