25/09/2010
Top 10 Strategies Of Highly Successful Professionals
Last Thursday evening, I was the guest of a group of therapists who interviewed me about how I’ve built my businesses over the years – both my therapy offices and my coaching business. Their probing, and very pointed, questions dramatically helped me clarify exactly what strategies have worked for me and my clients over the years. I hope you enjoy it. It is as solid and tight a summary of what has worked for me over the years as anything I’ve ever written. I’m quite proud of it, at least as an accurate reflection of what has worked for me.
1. Clarify the vision. Many of us have a tendency to be lazy about defining exactly what we want and where we want to be in a few years. Set your course as clearly as you can! A vague desire to "Work less and make more money" may be a comfortable day-dream, but it is not a success strategy!
2. Turn the vision into a mission. Once you know where you want to go, you have to be clear, get passionate, get DETERMINED to arrive! Develop a series of vital reasons, personal motivators, personal drivers that pull you forward. Why are you doing what you do? If you only want to make money, get a job! (It's easier!) What’s your driving purpose?
3. Get a mentor. Hire a coach or create a frequent, steady, EFFECTIVE working relationship with someone who has been where you want to go, or perhaps more importantly, has a proven ability to help others get there. (Great sports coaches don't have to be great athletes! But they do have to know the game and be experts at helping their athletes win!)
4. Get a map and a compass! Develop a detailed, specific working plan. Work with your coach on this, and write it down! It doesn't have to be long and detailed, but it does have to make sense, and it has to give you direction and purpose for getting from where you are, to where you want to be. It should be detailed enough to tell you precisely what to do first, each Monday morning.
5. Improve the plan whenever possible. There is a contradiction here. Use and trust your plan, and rely on it! At the same time, life will give you unexpected opportunities, sudden short-cuts, and amazing possibilities. Be ready at any moment to jump on a "real" opportunity, but be very cautious about running off on every whim or impulse. How do you know the difference? Check with your coach!
6. Hang-out with talented people. Pick up the phone and introduce yourself to people who have achieved want you want to achieve. Read about them, get on their mailing lists or take classes from them. If they don't teach, develop a class and invite them to be your guest expert! But find people who are walking on the same, or a similar, path to your own, and follow in their footsteps, or walk beside them, or encourage them to catch up with you. Success loves company!
7. Work very hard. Again, there is a contradiction here. To achieve a high level of success takes an ability to play very hard, sometimes for a long time. If you've defined your vision accurately, the distinction between "work" and "play" will begin to blur, and you'll find yourself willing (eager!) to work a lot. It takes sustained, efficient, focused effort to achieve great things. I know of no short-cut.
8. Keep good records! This means accurate accounting, a personal journal of what works and why, notes about your best customers and the coolest things your competitors are doing. Jot down ideas, keep track. Especially, monitor the money.
9. Work smarter everyday! I think the biggest single thing in my success is that my family has no history of being in business, and even making money is a bit "suspect", but they LOVE learning! Early on, they taught me that everything I could ever need or want in life was in the local library. Learn from the competition. Learn how they did it 100 years ago! Read "Wired" and "Fast Company" to see how it might be done next year. Take the best, and leave the rest.
10. Always be planning your "next" million dollars. Whatever you’re doing today is already becoming obsolete. By the time you read the book or attend the seminar, someone has already found a "better, faster, cheaper" way to do it. Always be looking over the horizon, seeking the next opportunity and figuring out how to incorporate it into what you already have and love. Keep growing!
"Written by Dr Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and personal success coach. Dr Humbert has hundreds of tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use for YOUR success! It's a great resource! And, be sure to sign up for his FREE newsletter! Visit him on the web at: http://www.philiphumbert.com"
1. Clarify the vision. Many of us have a tendency to be lazy about defining exactly what we want and where we want to be in a few years. Set your course as clearly as you can! A vague desire to "Work less and make more money" may be a comfortable day-dream, but it is not a success strategy!
2. Turn the vision into a mission. Once you know where you want to go, you have to be clear, get passionate, get DETERMINED to arrive! Develop a series of vital reasons, personal motivators, personal drivers that pull you forward. Why are you doing what you do? If you only want to make money, get a job! (It's easier!) What’s your driving purpose?
3. Get a mentor. Hire a coach or create a frequent, steady, EFFECTIVE working relationship with someone who has been where you want to go, or perhaps more importantly, has a proven ability to help others get there. (Great sports coaches don't have to be great athletes! But they do have to know the game and be experts at helping their athletes win!)
4. Get a map and a compass! Develop a detailed, specific working plan. Work with your coach on this, and write it down! It doesn't have to be long and detailed, but it does have to make sense, and it has to give you direction and purpose for getting from where you are, to where you want to be. It should be detailed enough to tell you precisely what to do first, each Monday morning.
5. Improve the plan whenever possible. There is a contradiction here. Use and trust your plan, and rely on it! At the same time, life will give you unexpected opportunities, sudden short-cuts, and amazing possibilities. Be ready at any moment to jump on a "real" opportunity, but be very cautious about running off on every whim or impulse. How do you know the difference? Check with your coach!
6. Hang-out with talented people. Pick up the phone and introduce yourself to people who have achieved want you want to achieve. Read about them, get on their mailing lists or take classes from them. If they don't teach, develop a class and invite them to be your guest expert! But find people who are walking on the same, or a similar, path to your own, and follow in their footsteps, or walk beside them, or encourage them to catch up with you. Success loves company!
7. Work very hard. Again, there is a contradiction here. To achieve a high level of success takes an ability to play very hard, sometimes for a long time. If you've defined your vision accurately, the distinction between "work" and "play" will begin to blur, and you'll find yourself willing (eager!) to work a lot. It takes sustained, efficient, focused effort to achieve great things. I know of no short-cut.
8. Keep good records! This means accurate accounting, a personal journal of what works and why, notes about your best customers and the coolest things your competitors are doing. Jot down ideas, keep track. Especially, monitor the money.
9. Work smarter everyday! I think the biggest single thing in my success is that my family has no history of being in business, and even making money is a bit "suspect", but they LOVE learning! Early on, they taught me that everything I could ever need or want in life was in the local library. Learn from the competition. Learn how they did it 100 years ago! Read "Wired" and "Fast Company" to see how it might be done next year. Take the best, and leave the rest.
10. Always be planning your "next" million dollars. Whatever you’re doing today is already becoming obsolete. By the time you read the book or attend the seminar, someone has already found a "better, faster, cheaper" way to do it. Always be looking over the horizon, seeking the next opportunity and figuring out how to incorporate it into what you already have and love. Keep growing!
"Written by Dr Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and personal success coach. Dr Humbert has hundreds of tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use for YOUR success! It's a great resource! And, be sure to sign up for his FREE newsletter! Visit him on the web at: http://www.philiphumbert.com"
23/09/2010
Livsinstruktioner
1. Ge människor mer än vad de förväntar sig och gör det för att du tycker om det...
2. Tro inte på allt du hör, spendera inte allt du får och sov inte så mycket som du skulle vilja..
3. När du säger: ' Jag älskar dig', säg det på riktigt...
4. När du säger: 'Jag är ledsen', se personen i ögonen...
5. Tro på kärlek vid första ögonkastet...
6. Älska djupt och passionerat. Du kan bli sårad, men det är det enda sättet att leva livet komplett.....
7. Förolämpa inte!
8. Tala långsamt men tänk snabbt...
9. Om någon ställer en fråga som du inte vill svara på, le och fråga istället:
' Varför vill du veta det?'
10. Säg prosit när du hör någon nysa....
11. Låt inte ett litet missförstånd förstöra en stor vänskap...
12. När du upptäcker att du gjort fel, rätta till det genast...
13. Le när du svarar i telefon, den som ringer hör att du ler :o)
14. Spendera lite tid ensam...
15. Öppna din famn för ombyten/förändringar, men släpp inte på dina värderingar....
16. Kom ihåg att tystnad ibland är bästa svaret...
17. Lev ett bra och värdigt liv...
18. När du blir gammal minns det som varit, då kan du njuta av det en andra gång...
19. Tro på människor, men lås alltid din bil....
20. Dela med dig av allt du vet... Det är ett sätt att uppnå odödlighet.....
21. Avbryt aldrig någon som håller på att visa dej sin tillgivenhet...
22. En gång om året, åk till ett ställe du aldrig varit på....
23. Om du tjänar mycket pengar, placera dem för att hjälpa andra medan de fortfarande lever..
24. Lär dej alla regler, och bryt en del...
25. Närma dig köket och kärleken med djärvhet...
2. Tro inte på allt du hör, spendera inte allt du får och sov inte så mycket som du skulle vilja..
3. När du säger: ' Jag älskar dig', säg det på riktigt...
4. När du säger: 'Jag är ledsen', se personen i ögonen...
5. Tro på kärlek vid första ögonkastet...
6. Älska djupt och passionerat. Du kan bli sårad, men det är det enda sättet att leva livet komplett.....
7. Förolämpa inte!
8. Tala långsamt men tänk snabbt...
9. Om någon ställer en fråga som du inte vill svara på, le och fråga istället:
' Varför vill du veta det?'
10. Säg prosit när du hör någon nysa....
11. Låt inte ett litet missförstånd förstöra en stor vänskap...
12. När du upptäcker att du gjort fel, rätta till det genast...
13. Le när du svarar i telefon, den som ringer hör att du ler :o)
14. Spendera lite tid ensam...
15. Öppna din famn för ombyten/förändringar, men släpp inte på dina värderingar....
16. Kom ihåg att tystnad ibland är bästa svaret...
17. Lev ett bra och värdigt liv...
18. När du blir gammal minns det som varit, då kan du njuta av det en andra gång...
19. Tro på människor, men lås alltid din bil....
20. Dela med dig av allt du vet... Det är ett sätt att uppnå odödlighet.....
21. Avbryt aldrig någon som håller på att visa dej sin tillgivenhet...
22. En gång om året, åk till ett ställe du aldrig varit på....
23. Om du tjänar mycket pengar, placera dem för att hjälpa andra medan de fortfarande lever..
24. Lär dej alla regler, och bryt en del...
25. Närma dig köket och kärleken med djärvhet...
16/09/2010
Some important lessons life teaches you...
Most Important Lesson
During my second month of nursing school, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one:
"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. "Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello'." "I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
Second Important Lesson
One night, at 11:30 PM, an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxi cab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away.
God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.
Third Important Lesson
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.
"How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "Fifty cents," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied."
The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came
The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came
back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
Fourth Important Lesson
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear. But none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand. Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.
Fifth Important Lesson
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz, who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.
I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her.." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?" Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her.." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?" Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
You see understanding and attitude, after all, is everything. Now you can do something. You have 2 choices now :
Make your own life lessons pay off by helping someone else.
Read this and think it was just a nice thought and you wish you had more time to do the things you want to do.
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt, and
Dance like you do when nobody's watching
To your success~
12/09/2010
Hur man kan öka sin business med hjälp av "gilla-knappen" på Facebook
En gång för längesedan, i landet Facebook, fanns det något som hette "Fan = beundrare". Man kunde bli en "beundrare" av en sida när man klickade på "bli en beundrare-knappen, på en specifik beundrarsida. Tidigare behövde man befinna sig på din sida för att bli en "beundrare", men med de senaste förändringarna i hur Facebook numera tillåter människor att anknyta till din sida, så har en helt ny värld av möjligheter öppnat sig och skapat gratis anhängare för din verksamhet, med kopplingar från hela Internet.
Det finns många fördelar med att anamma detta nya intiativ från Facebook:
1. När någon på Facebook klickar på "gilla-knappen" på din sida, så visas detta i deras nyhetsflöde på Facebook. Deras vänner kan se vilka sidor de "gillar" och kan "gilla" din sida de med. Din kundbas har ökat genom bara ett klick.
2. Du installerar och visar en "gilla-knapp" på din webbsida eller blog, där besökare kan klicka, som därmed automatiskt updaterar deras Facebook sida's profil, och de börjar följa dig utan att ens behöva logga in på sin facebook sida för att hitta dig. Användandet av en "gilla" knapp för att länka ihop potentiella kunder, eliminerar ett betydande steg i länkprocessen, ett steg som ibland kan resultera i att man tappar kunder om de har svårt för att hitta dig igen, eller om de tror att de kan hitta dig vid ett senare tillfälle, men de glömmer.
3. Eftersom du producerar innehåll, vare sig det är genom ett blogginlägg, en artikel, eller en länk, så kan folk "gilla" ditt innehåll. Detta visas på deras egen Facebook sida/sidor, och deras vänner får ett tillfälle att se ditt producerade innehåll. Detta kan bygga upp dig som ledare, och öka på följarantalet inom din egen niche.
4. Samlar alla dina kunder, webbsidebesökare, bloggläsare och andra potentiella intressenter på ett ställe, nämnligen Facebook. Facebook är ett ställe som representerar ett bra varumärke, ett ställe där människor spenderar en hel del tid varje dag, och ett ställe där du kan interagera med dem på daglig basis utan att behöva skicka dem otaliga långa e-mail. Människor har inga problem med att läsa rubriker om en ny produkt eller något som är till salu i en status rad, men de tröttnar snabbt på att få otaliga e-mail från ett och samma ställe/verksamhet (detta besparar dig tid också).
5. Gilla-knappen attraherar mycket mer uppmärksamhet till din blogg, webbsida etc. När människor delar dina länkar, så ökar din position hos sökmotorerna, som vidare ökar din verksamhets position på nätet.
Facebook's gilla-knapp är ett utomordentligt arbetsverktyg. Det finns en hel massa bra videon på YouTube som visar hur du kan installera detta verktyg. Denna förändring som till en början skapade kaos på Facebook, blev till sist en förändring som gjort det möjligt för potentiella kunder att "följa" dig, och därmed öka din kundbas (komma på din lista över potentiella intressenter), från flera olika håll på Internet. Därmed ökar också din intäkt i det långa loppet.
Frågan är inte längre: Vad är gilla-knappen för något?, utan:
Hur snabbt kan jag installera den på mina egna sidor.
Jag gillar detta!!
Anne Bengtson
Det finns många fördelar med att anamma detta nya intiativ från Facebook:
1. När någon på Facebook klickar på "gilla-knappen" på din sida, så visas detta i deras nyhetsflöde på Facebook. Deras vänner kan se vilka sidor de "gillar" och kan "gilla" din sida de med. Din kundbas har ökat genom bara ett klick.
2. Du installerar och visar en "gilla-knapp" på din webbsida eller blog, där besökare kan klicka, som därmed automatiskt updaterar deras Facebook sida's profil, och de börjar följa dig utan att ens behöva logga in på sin facebook sida för att hitta dig. Användandet av en "gilla" knapp för att länka ihop potentiella kunder, eliminerar ett betydande steg i länkprocessen, ett steg som ibland kan resultera i att man tappar kunder om de har svårt för att hitta dig igen, eller om de tror att de kan hitta dig vid ett senare tillfälle, men de glömmer.
3. Eftersom du producerar innehåll, vare sig det är genom ett blogginlägg, en artikel, eller en länk, så kan folk "gilla" ditt innehåll. Detta visas på deras egen Facebook sida/sidor, och deras vänner får ett tillfälle att se ditt producerade innehåll. Detta kan bygga upp dig som ledare, och öka på följarantalet inom din egen niche.
4. Samlar alla dina kunder, webbsidebesökare, bloggläsare och andra potentiella intressenter på ett ställe, nämnligen Facebook. Facebook är ett ställe som representerar ett bra varumärke, ett ställe där människor spenderar en hel del tid varje dag, och ett ställe där du kan interagera med dem på daglig basis utan att behöva skicka dem otaliga långa e-mail. Människor har inga problem med att läsa rubriker om en ny produkt eller något som är till salu i en status rad, men de tröttnar snabbt på att få otaliga e-mail från ett och samma ställe/verksamhet (detta besparar dig tid också).
5. Gilla-knappen attraherar mycket mer uppmärksamhet till din blogg, webbsida etc. När människor delar dina länkar, så ökar din position hos sökmotorerna, som vidare ökar din verksamhets position på nätet.
Facebook's gilla-knapp är ett utomordentligt arbetsverktyg. Det finns en hel massa bra videon på YouTube som visar hur du kan installera detta verktyg. Denna förändring som till en början skapade kaos på Facebook, blev till sist en förändring som gjort det möjligt för potentiella kunder att "följa" dig, och därmed öka din kundbas (komma på din lista över potentiella intressenter), från flera olika håll på Internet. Därmed ökar också din intäkt i det långa loppet.
Frågan är inte längre: Vad är gilla-knappen för något?, utan:
Hur snabbt kan jag installera den på mina egna sidor.
Jag gillar detta!!
Anne Bengtson
11/09/2010
The Solutions to Life's 10 Biggest Problems!
Every day people tell me about their problems, often in great detail, and I've noticed patterns that show up over and over. For many people, life's problems are viewed as "not enough money" or "not enough time". For couples, the problems are often around " communication" or "parenting" or "sex". They think if only they had more time or better sex or a better job, things would be wonderful. But it doesn't work that way, because these things are not the BIG PROBLEM. From my experience, I suggest life's really big problems are:
1. Tunnel Vision. The tendency to focus only on the immediate crisis or sore spot. Under stress things look worse or more complex than they really are. The solution: Perspective. Ask if it will matter in 6 months. Ask what else is going on? How did I create this situation and, in an ideal world, what would I like to do about it?
2. Fear. The anxiety or terror that things will go badly, that we will fail or be embarrassed. The solution: Humor and Curiosity. Modern life has very few saber-tooth tigers. The situation is rarely life or death. Ask, What's the worst that can happen? What's the best? What can I learn? What would I do if I had no fear?
3. Confusion. The sense of being lost or unclear about our direction. The sense that we don't know our own priorities anymore. The solution: Responsible Choices. Choose your values and priorities and set your own path. Your life is yours. Check your moral compass, pick a direction and do something extraordinary!
4. Guilt. The belief that we have hurt or failed or sinned and deserve punishment. Guilt is either accurate, because sometimes we do behave badly, or it is false and simply an illusion. The solution: If we have transgressed, we must make restitution, ask forgiveness, learn from our error and move on. If it is false guilt, set it down as an unnecessary and irrational burden.
5. Shame. The belief that we are worth-less than others, that we have a terrible, incurable flaw. It is not that we have done something wrong (guilt), but that we are bad or wrong. The solution: Clear, rational thinking. Everyone has behaved badly, but no one was created badly! Any flaws only serve to make you stronger, more heroic or more compassionate toward others.
6. Loneliness. The belief that no one loves us, that no one cares and we must desperately cling to anyone who finds us attractive or acceptable. This creates dependency, not intimacy. The solution: Accurate Self-Assessment. Not everyone will love you, but many people will if they meet you, get to know you, and spend time working/playing along side you.
7. Resentment. Holding anger and refusing to move beyond real or imagined mistreatment in the past. Some people spend their whole lives as "victims", nurturing a terrible event in their past. The solution: Let go! Life is not fair and people do not always behave well or kindly. Use your trauma to make you wise, kind, gentle, and strong. Holding anger will not work.
8. Self-Doubt. The repeated, endless questioning of your own abilities, opinions or actions. The inability to take a stand, to act boldly, or to follow-through. The solution: Action! Think clearly, then take action and follow-through. Start small, but do it! You are the world's expert on your life! Use your wisdom to live well.
9. Stubbornness. The refusal or inability to re-assess a situation, change your mind, or admit you were wrong. The solution: Wisdom and Humility. Only a fool stays on a course that is headed for disaster! Search for new and better information, remain flexible, open and creative. When the situation changes, adjust accordingly and set a new course.
10. Addiction. Humans become addicted to drugs, but we also become addicted to our jobs, our opinions or our lifestyle. We can be addicted to people and need them rather than love them. The solution: Take a vacation! Periodically, walk in someone else's shoes. Break your habits, re-arrange your schedule, delegate those things that only you can do "right". Use habits and traditions to set you free, don't let habits enslave you!
"Written by Dr Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and personal success coach. Dr Humbert has hundreds of tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use for YOUR success! It's a great resource! And, be sure to sign up for his FREE newsletter! Visit him on the web at: http://www.philiphumbert.com"
09/09/2010
En vän....
* En, enkel vän, de kommer till dig, agerar som en inbjuden.
* En verklig vän öppnar ditt kylskåp och serverar sig själv.
* En enkel vän har aldrig sett dig gråta.
* En verklig vän har sina axlar våta av dina tårar.
* En enkel vän känner inte till förnamnen på dina föräldrar.
* En riktigt vän har deras nummer i sin adressbok.
* En enkel vän tar med sig en flaska vin till dina fester.
* En verklig vän kommer tidigt och hjälper dig och stannar sent för att hjälpa dig att diska.
* En enkel vän avskyr när du ringer efter det att du har gått och lagt dig.
* En verklig vän frågar varför du har tagit så lång tid på dig att ringa.
* En enkel vän tror att vänskapen är slut efter ett gräl.
* En verklig vän ringer dig efter ett gräl.
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07/09/2010
Top 10 Ways to Use Attraction To Build Your Business
Most business people would rather have customers seek us out based on a strong personal referral from a satisfied customer, than go to the expense of mass advertising. It's called marketing through attraction. It's about offering phenomenal value. It's about being liked, about being respected, about having potential customers wanting to do business with us! It's very efficient, and it's very cool! The problem is that for most business leaders the specifics are often vague or confusing. Here are ten practical steps:
"Written by Dr Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and personal success coach. Dr Humbert has hundreds of tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use for YOUR success! It's a great resource! And, be sure to sign up for his FREE newsletter! Visit him on the web at: http://www.philiphumbert.com"
- Have a Strong Personal Foundation. People who are stressed, worried, tired or not having fun are very unattractive. Keep yourself rested and have some fun every day. Laugh, enjoy your life, and fix or eliminate the things that get in your way. It doesn't cost, it pays!
- Do Stuff You Enjoy. A huge key to attracting clients is to be in a business you love. If you love it enough, you’ll get very good at it. You’ll talk about it, connect with other people, and things will happen. Enjoy skiing? Run a ski resort! I’ve never met a business owner who works as hard as some people do on their golf game. Work with passion!
- Superb Personal Boundaries. It’s very hard to attract flies when you’re swatting mosquitoes! Be sure the people in your personal and professional life know what you need in terms of space, privacy, respect and honesty. It makes life easier, and living easy is very attractive!
- Extraordinary Personal Standards. Understand how you want to live, and settle for nothing less. Even in business, we are attracted to individuals who have chosen their path and are proceeding boldly. Your life is your own; live well, be bold.
- Extreme Service. Good enough, never is! Even excellent performance is probably not enough to attract the clients you really want. Only extraordinary performance will draw the world to you! Give valuable extras, provide service before your clients ask. Learn from every mistake. Your customers, especially the unhappy ones, are your best R&D team! That attitude will draw the world to your door!
- Delight in the Details. Both heaven and hell are in the details. Even a fabulous gourmet meal, thrown on a paper plate and tossed at the customer would not be attractive. Pay attention to the presentation, the packaging, the delivery. Track the details! Little things count.
- Avoid the cost of delay. Arrange your business and your life so that you can respond to a great idea immediately! Having reserves of space, time, money, energy and creativity allows you to make that call, sign a contract, form a partnership or start a new venture literally over-night. To attract the world to you door, answer promptly when opportunity knocks!
- Risk nothing! Or, to put it another way, take no significant risks, and always control the down-side. Having a reserve allows you to launch a website in a few hours’ time with a tiny investment. If it doesn’t work or you simply change your mind, you walk away with no significant loss. Arrange your business (and your life) so that when a great idea happens, you can respond quickly and easily. And if it goes sour, you simply smile and move forward.
- Understand the Capillary System. The old way was to network with a hundred people and advertise to as many as you could reach. Now, you can give away thousands of newsletters, a hundred free T-shirts, sponsor a contest or let 100,000 people visit your website! Some will try only the free stuff, some will buy a book or tape or take a class, and some will go for the whole deal. Understand about free samples, introductory specials, and first class presentation!
- Understand the law of large numbers. It costs no more to have thousands of people see your website every day than to have 6 visitors a month. A great website costs no more than a few newspaper ads, but a billion people can see it! No matter what you’re selling, only about 1% of the population is going to buy. But now, that one percent can still add up to millions of people! Understand the "law of large numbers" and use it to attract the customers you want!
"Written by Dr Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and personal success coach. Dr Humbert has hundreds of tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use for YOUR success! It's a great resource! And, be sure to sign up for his FREE newsletter! Visit him on the web at: http://www.philiphumbert.com"
06/09/2010
Top 10 Tools to Reach Your Goals Quickly
We all have dreams and goals. Some of them are simply "wishes", like winning the lottery or sailing to Tahiti. But we also have goals that are vital to our futures and the well-being of our families. And yet many of us make little or no progress toward achieving our most important goals. We wait and hope, but get no closer to our dreams. It doesn't have to be that way! We all know people who soar from one project to another, achieving their goals and living the life they want. How do they do it?
1. Clarity of purpose. For a dream to become a goal, it must be specific. While it's fun to dream about being rich, it takes courage and hard choices to decide exactly how much money you want and how you are going to earn it. Being "thin" is an image; losing 23 pounds by your birthday is a goal. In life, we probably can't have it all. You can lose 23 pounds, or you can have the cake and ice cream. Your choice. Be clear.
2. Commitment. There's a story from ancient Greece about a general who landed his troops on the beach, then burned his ships. He wanted each soldier to know there was no turning back, no retreat, no alternative to victory. Once your goal is clear, emotionally commit to achieving it. There are no alternatives.
3. Talk about it. This is called "accountability". Once you've defined your goal and committed yourself to achieve it, start talking about it! If you want to lose weight, don't blame your spouse for buying ice cream if they don't know and understand your goal! Talking about your goals makes them emotionally real and powerful. It allows people to help you reach your goal and support you along the way. Some people will also criticize or undermine you. Don't talk to them.
4. Write it down. This is basic, and one of the oldest, simplest and most powerful techniques for achieving any goal. Write it down! Describe precisely what you want, how you will earn it, when you will have it, and the benefits you'll receive from achieving your goal. Write the details. Write the colors, the shapes and the dates.
5. Write it every day! Every morning, use a small card or a corner of your appointment book to record a short description of your goal where you will see it all day long. Don't carry the same card day after day! If your goal is worth anything, it's worth a minute of your time to write a simple sentence describing your dream and focusing on your priorities. Do this every morning.
6. Have a plan. Create a map for getting there. And put dates on it! A goal to retire at age 40 has no meaning without a savings and investment strategy. A goal to create your own business is just a fantasy without a plan to attract investors, find a location, hire staff and sell your goods or services. The beauty of a plan is that it allows you to…
7. Take action every day! "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Any goal that is worthy of you, is worth a few minutes of your time and some of your energy every single day. To one day write a novel, write a chapter this week. To open your own business, read a business magazine today. To create a more loving family, give someone a hug today. To be salesperson of the year, make a phone call right now!
8. Use constant affirmations. One of my clients is a PGA golfer. From the moment his ball lands on the green until he sinks the putt, he repeats over and over "I will make this putt!" He repeats that phrase as many 200 times before every putt! Do you think he would be more, or less, successful if he spent those moments thinking, "I just hope I don't miss it."? Tell yourself what you want to hear!
9. Review, and re-commit, often. Never be afraid to review your goals, evaluate whether you are still 100% committed to them, and re-commit to achieving them. If your values, or your choices have changed, change your goals accordingly, and be honest about it! And if your goal still fits, run to it with all your heart!
10. Celebrate each milestone! Never wait to have a party! Each deposit in your savings account deserves a checkmark on the calendar and a hug from your partner. Each day without a cigarette deserves a smile and congratulations from your loved ones. Every step toward your goal should be documented and celebrated! When you get discouraged or have doubts, your record of past successes will quickly get you back on track. Not sure about this? Ask any marathon runner whether they count each mile on their run to the finish line! Celebrate each and every milepost on your path to victory!
"Written by Dr Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and personal success coach. Dr Humbert has hundreds of tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use for YOUR success! It's a great resource! And, be sure to sign up for his FREE newsletter! Visit him on the web at: http://www.philiphumbert.com"
1. Clarity of purpose. For a dream to become a goal, it must be specific. While it's fun to dream about being rich, it takes courage and hard choices to decide exactly how much money you want and how you are going to earn it. Being "thin" is an image; losing 23 pounds by your birthday is a goal. In life, we probably can't have it all. You can lose 23 pounds, or you can have the cake and ice cream. Your choice. Be clear.
2. Commitment. There's a story from ancient Greece about a general who landed his troops on the beach, then burned his ships. He wanted each soldier to know there was no turning back, no retreat, no alternative to victory. Once your goal is clear, emotionally commit to achieving it. There are no alternatives.
3. Talk about it. This is called "accountability". Once you've defined your goal and committed yourself to achieve it, start talking about it! If you want to lose weight, don't blame your spouse for buying ice cream if they don't know and understand your goal! Talking about your goals makes them emotionally real and powerful. It allows people to help you reach your goal and support you along the way. Some people will also criticize or undermine you. Don't talk to them.
4. Write it down. This is basic, and one of the oldest, simplest and most powerful techniques for achieving any goal. Write it down! Describe precisely what you want, how you will earn it, when you will have it, and the benefits you'll receive from achieving your goal. Write the details. Write the colors, the shapes and the dates.
5. Write it every day! Every morning, use a small card or a corner of your appointment book to record a short description of your goal where you will see it all day long. Don't carry the same card day after day! If your goal is worth anything, it's worth a minute of your time to write a simple sentence describing your dream and focusing on your priorities. Do this every morning.
6. Have a plan. Create a map for getting there. And put dates on it! A goal to retire at age 40 has no meaning without a savings and investment strategy. A goal to create your own business is just a fantasy without a plan to attract investors, find a location, hire staff and sell your goods or services. The beauty of a plan is that it allows you to…
7. Take action every day! "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Any goal that is worthy of you, is worth a few minutes of your time and some of your energy every single day. To one day write a novel, write a chapter this week. To open your own business, read a business magazine today. To create a more loving family, give someone a hug today. To be salesperson of the year, make a phone call right now!
8. Use constant affirmations. One of my clients is a PGA golfer. From the moment his ball lands on the green until he sinks the putt, he repeats over and over "I will make this putt!" He repeats that phrase as many 200 times before every putt! Do you think he would be more, or less, successful if he spent those moments thinking, "I just hope I don't miss it."? Tell yourself what you want to hear!
9. Review, and re-commit, often. Never be afraid to review your goals, evaluate whether you are still 100% committed to them, and re-commit to achieving them. If your values, or your choices have changed, change your goals accordingly, and be honest about it! And if your goal still fits, run to it with all your heart!
10. Celebrate each milestone! Never wait to have a party! Each deposit in your savings account deserves a checkmark on the calendar and a hug from your partner. Each day without a cigarette deserves a smile and congratulations from your loved ones. Every step toward your goal should be documented and celebrated! When you get discouraged or have doubts, your record of past successes will quickly get you back on track. Not sure about this? Ask any marathon runner whether they count each mile on their run to the finish line! Celebrate each and every milepost on your path to victory!
"Written by Dr Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and personal success coach. Dr Humbert has hundreds of tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use for YOUR success! It's a great resource! And, be sure to sign up for his FREE newsletter! Visit him on the web at: http://www.philiphumbert.com"
05/09/2010
A Spanish teacher...
...was explaining to her class that in Spanish, unlike English, nouns are designated as either masculine or feminine.
"House" for instance, is feminine: "la casa."
"Pencil,"however, is masculine: "el lapiz.."
A student asked, "What gender is 'computer'?"
Instead of giving the answer, the teacher split the class into two groups, male and female, and asked them to decide for themselves whether "computer" should be a masculine or a feminine noun. Each group was asked to give four reasons for its recommendation.
The men's group decided that "computer" should definitely be of the feminine gender ("la computadora"), because:
The women's group, however, concluded that computers should be Masculine("el computador"), because:
"House" for instance, is feminine: "la casa."
"Pencil,"however, is masculine: "el lapiz.."
A student asked, "What gender is 'computer'?"
Instead of giving the answer, the teacher split the class into two groups, male and female, and asked them to decide for themselves whether "computer" should be a masculine or a feminine noun. Each group was asked to give four reasons for its recommendation.
The men's group decided that "computer" should definitely be of the feminine gender ("la computadora"), because:
- No one but their creator understands their internal logic;
- The native language they use to communicate with other computers is incomprehensible to everyone else;
- Even the smallest mistakes are stored in long term memory for possible later retrieval; and
- As soon as you make a commitment to one, you find yourself spending half your paycheck on accessories for it.
The women's group, however, concluded that computers should be Masculine("el computador"), because:
- In order to do anything with them, you have to turn them on;
- They have a lot of data but still can't think for themselves;
- They are supposed to help you solve problems, but half the time they ARE the problem; and
- As soon as you commit to one, you realize that if you had waited a little longer, you could have gotten a better model.
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